ben13

Hi guys, Thanks for replying to my post.

Amplexor- I'd be lying if I said I wasn't bothered about the sex but tbh I'm really REALLY concerened about the lack of intimacy and affection. We've had alot of up's and downs and talk alot about what I did. BUT... there was still some kind of loving feeling there. Now its just gone altogether. We've talked tonight and she's adamant that we will work things out and that she loves me beyond words. The thing that really bothers me is that when i give her a massage if i go anywhere near her bum or or above her knees she goes really tense and shakes me away. I've talked to her about this and said i feel this is not a physical problem but she just shoots the conversation down in flames.

Blind - There have been a few issues with debt recently (bailiff turned up at our door) and this seems to be the point where things headed south (she had a few bad experiences with bailiffs before we met). I'm taking care of the debt and its no longer a problem.
However the lack of intimacy and affection still hangs in the air.

I asked her tonight why she doesn't kiss n cuddle me or tell me she loves me but she didnt really answer so i tactfully pushed it a little and asked her if she's scared of telling me she loves me to which she replied "maybe". I'm at a loss as to what to do for the best. I love my partner dearly and understand how much hurt and pain I've caused her but I just cant seem to figure out why all of a sudden she's gone so cold towards me.

Sorry its a bit long but hope this might give a little more insight into things

Ben13