Originally Posted by Homemaker_Numero_Uno
Staying in a bad marriage with a person who controls you through your kid and yells at you about yogurt is just a different version of suicide. If you can't believe your wife when she tells you something personal, then probably you shouldn't be married to her. If there is no sex, and she's withholding, what's the point?
She's probably waiting for you to cheat at this far-away job of yours, so she can pin the blame on you. Again, being passive is just another form of suicide. Only you don't die, so you can continue to do it every single day.
If your marriage is abusive, leave. That's what the guys tell the women, ususally. Stop making excuses and get real about what's going on. Then do what is best for you. You can eat yogurt in peace, and if you do happen to choke on it, at least you don't have to die to the sound of someone laughing while they hand you the phone and tell you to call 911. I really can't see how you would want to eat anything out of your own fridge. It might be poisoned or at least pee'd in.
I don't think it's required to read other posts before replying to one. On a forum that's a lot of work. It struck me as that you had different rules for yourself than for her. That's not cool. I can see you're anxious and of course you have cause for it. But you brought part of that on by choosing to need to verify what your W told you. It was a choice that you made.
Well, you gave me something to ponder over. I never looked at it from that angle.
Since you did not read my other threads I will state it here. This is hopefully my last attempt to save this marriage. Yes I am trying to save it yet, however I am not very hopeful. We spent a lot of time together, it would be a shame to throw it all away. It would also be a shame to stay together as it is now. I am going to put my foot down and take command. I have always been a "nice guy". If she does not like this change then it is time for divorce. Just trying one last time before moving on so I do not feel guilty later on.