Originally Posted by lordmayhem
Agreed. Thats why I want to reach through the screen sometimes and punch someone in the face when I read the standard response that she wouldn't have cheated if you were there for her emotionally. We can't read there freaking minds. When we try to ask whats wrong I got the dreaded "N" word (Nothing!). I did my best to communicate and give her validation at the expense of my own. I know my emotional and sexual needs weren't being met yet I never damn cheated!!!
Posted via Mobile Device
I was telling my husband for years what I needed, to be heard, respected, not lectured, appreciated etc. He agrees with me on this. And he says that it was hard for him to do it because of the many set backs he's had in his life. Did I say it the right way? Probably not, I said it in a defensive manner "stop putting me down" instead of telling him how it made me felt. And then he would take it the wrong way and build resentment etc.
Nothing=tons of stuff