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Auzzie · 01-28-2012, 03:21 AM

OKi Dokie...let me clear a few misconceptions being drawn gere..either through myself not explaining enough...or whatever.

My husband has known Ive not orgasmed with him. He knows I was molested...I told him within weeks of starting our journey together. I do enjoy sex with my H and can get a little vocal, because it feels wonderful...and that sets him off. He has always been a premature ejaculator...we have tried to talk about it, whereby he promises to try harder next time...but unfortunately...it hasnt happened yet.

I wont pressure him over it as Ive hear that makes it worse...and I dont want to do that to him ever or make him feel crappy. He has known for many years I havent orgasmed with him....and I dont think it matters to him to be honest. He is a great man who has had very little sexual past...and perhaps as has been mentioned hasnt ever bought a woman to orgasm....I dont know...its not something I chat to him about...and frankly talking about past sexual partners isnt our cup of tea.

We had sex this morning with me being the inititator, which is a first in a very long time, we started out great...but ended not so great. I tried to be clear as possible about what I wanted him to do, and he seemd happy to follow my lead. I was starting to relax and let my mind just relax as well....and Id open by eyes to see him looking at the wall...I didnt know why...and that ended it for me. My body shut down and I mentally gave up. He said afterwards he thought I was going to fall asleep! I said...I was finally relaxing...LOL.

I do think Im to blame as I dont know how to orgasm with a man full stop. I havent ever been brough to orgasm by my past sexual partners. I do have trust issues deep down obviousley.

I would give anything to be normal.

01-28-2012, 03:21 AM	#29 (permalink)
Auzzie Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Australia Posts: 32	Re: Orgasms: Why cant my man tell the difference between fake and real? OKi Dokie...let me clear a few misconceptions being drawn gere..either through myself not explaining enough...or whatever. My husband has known Ive not orgasmed with him. He knows I was molested...I told him within weeks of starting our journey together. I do enjoy sex with my H and can get a little vocal, because it feels wonderful...and that sets him off. He has always been a premature ejaculator...we have tried to talk about it, whereby he promises to try harder next time...but unfortunately...it hasnt happened yet. I wont pressure him over it as Ive hear that makes it worse...and I dont want to do that to him ever or make him feel crappy. He has known for many years I havent orgasmed with him....and I dont think it matters to him to be honest. He is a great man who has had very little sexual past...and perhaps as has been mentioned hasnt ever bought a woman to orgasm....I dont know...its not something I chat to him about...and frankly talking about past sexual partners isnt our cup of tea. We had sex this morning with me being the inititator, which is a first in a very long time, we started out great...but ended not so great. I tried to be clear as possible about what I wanted him to do, and he seemd happy to follow my lead. I was starting to relax and let my mind just relax as well....and Id open by eyes to see him looking at the wall...I didnt know why...and that ended it for me. My body shut down and I mentally gave up. He said afterwards he thought I was going to fall asleep! I said...I was finally relaxing...LOL. I do think Im to blame as I dont know how to orgasm with a man full stop. I havent ever been brough to orgasm by my past sexual partners. I do have trust issues deep down obviousley. I would give anything to be normal.