| | Re: Future Relationship with the other
Yep, I agree with all your boundaries. NO contact with him whatsoever...that is if she wants to be married to you. Oh and she needs to be 100% transparent with you: show you her phone/call logs, email, facebook (oh and sheshould delete him from her FB and email and phone. Block his #).
If she can't swing that, then divorce her. She is lucky enough you are giving her another chance. A lot of men wouldn't.
Stick to your boundaries. Do not negotiate. These things should be non-negotiable.
Oh but you forgot one of the most important things... you must expose the affair to his wife. Today. This moment. Immediately. She has a right to know she has been lied to and betrayed by both her husband and your wife (her friend). Do not falter on this, it's actually the VERY first thing you should do: tell her about the affair STAT. Your wife won't want you to do this--she will say it is to protect the OM's marriage and ask you why you are being vindictive and that you should never dream of doing such a thing but ya know what--fvck that. Because the longer you keep the affair a secret, you are actually enabling the affair. Affairs thrive in secrecy, in the dark, they live on because people don't know about them. So let his wife know. She has every right to know the truth about her marriage and decide for herself what she wants to do.
TELL HER TODAY.
Oh and I wouldn't share this website with your wife. This is your guide, not hers.
Last edited by Jellybeans; 01-28-2012 at 04:35 PM.