 Re: Pretty Much Have Lost It
Daily what MEM said.
You were not using your empathy muscle. You got it. The kids were a nightmare, they put her in a bad place.
Now what would a man who is thinking of his wife and not of himself do? Maybe "the kids got you down?, why don't you go take a brake after dinner and let me handle them."
Start intervening with the kids get them under control. Don't just sit there like an observer.
Look at it from her point of view - she needed a co-parent to back her up. What did she get? Another person demanding her attention.
You put yourself in with the kids. You sat there watching the scene and instead of helping her, you appealed to her to reassure you. You should be reassuring her that the misbehavior is temporary and you get them in line. That is acting like her hero not another needy child.
I can just imagine this is difficult for you. It is hard for you to think strait but you have to. You have to step back and gather your senses. Man up first, do it for you, your kids and your wife. That's what she needs. She is asking you to be a man in control and possession of yourself. A man with a plan, who is not hanging on her every mood. A man who set the tone regardless of the day to day fluctuations.
Stop letting the winds ruffle your sails. Stay ahead of it and control where you are headed.
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