| | Re: Wife was keeping friendship a secret, possible EA
I am of the opinion you stop an EA quickly and not wait around gathering more evidence. Why let your spouse get in deeper with someone? To me, that is assinine. I think you did the right thing.
I am also of the opinion she should quit the job right away. She's been there all of what, 2 months? Not exactly a huge commitment and she's shown she can't properly set boundaries with this guy. If she really wants to work on your marriage, then I suggest you ask her to find another job, because as long as she sees this guy every day, it's going to be really hard for her to stop, and really easy for them to take it underground.
People with very high paying jobs they've been in for years are forced to quit for this reason. A job that just started should be easy to let go of.