Originally Posted by heartsbeating
You said he didn't want to have to "work for it" ...but my initial thought was maybe you need to be less available for him and tease more. I don't mean reject him, no no no!! and I don't know if this would work for your man, but I know in our marriage, subtle looks, flirtation, body language definitely has him taking me in different parts of the house spontaneously... unless I make him wait and then he knows it's all part of our flirtation. This could just be called flirting but I know in our home, always being available took excitement out for both of us. I wanted that "just take me" and he wanted that tease. Works for us. Obviously not all the time is like this, it varies, but just thought I'd offer this as food for thought.
Well I can't be less available because both of us really enjoy being sexually available to one another. That was one of the many things we agreed makes us great together. The conflict comes when I want more excitement, and he wants to get straight to it, and I want to nip this in the bud before it turns into a bigger issue. We do tease each other sometimes, but that's more of him not entering me all the way and making me really want all of him NOW or me taking my panties off painfully slow so that he's pining for that access... maybe I need to try teasing in regular situations to make him really hungry for it! Thanks for the advice!