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Old 01-31-2012, 02:46 PM   #970 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by DailyGrind View Post
Usually, by the time I get home...she's made dinner (and many times they have already eaten.) I pretty much take over the governance of the kids, when I arrive. She finishes stuff (usually kid-related...like looking at their take-home folders, or getting their stuff ready for the next day.) Once that is done...she typically heads to bed (usually around the same time I'm putting kids in bed). Many times...I put off eating until they get settled into bed...so I can oversee them for her. Meaning I'm not eating until like 9:00.

It's just the attitude. She has apparently been holding grudges against me for occasionally being "rude" to her. Not yelling, not being mean, not physical, not aggressive......"rude." Meaning....voice tone. And yet.....the history is striffe with her giving ME tone. I come home last night....I say hello...and get a gruff "HI!!!" It takes me an hour to just get around to figuring out who she is mad at. Her attitude is like she's ANGRY at me. And I'm trying to figure out why that is. Her sharp retorts, sitting angrily in her chair, not talking, not even looking at me.....I walk into this wonderign WTF did I do? I can't tell you the number of times she has barked at me, when dealing with the kids....and I ask her 'why are you yelling at me?' Only to hear..."the kids are driving me nuts!" To which I will respond 'okay....BUT....why are you yelling at ME??!!' But....whooaaaa there, hoss.....let me do the same to her....well....that's worthy of a complete emotional shut down, for at LEAST...ohh....let's say....ahhh....3 months, maybe?? Oh...but yeah.....she tells AP...SHE walks on eggshells.

Sorry...just more venting.
What's your "tone" she's always referring to? does she describe it? and why does she feel like she's "walking on eggshells?"
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