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JustMe · 08-06-2007, 05:52 PM

Hi Steve,
I think the divorce thing completely depends on the couple/situation. I have 2 step sons and yes, having divorced parents was hard on them (and still is for the oldest at times), but IMO what's most important is that they're raised knowing that BOTH parents love them, no matter what. If you and your wife were to stay together "just for the kids", what kind of household will they grow up in? Kids are super intuitive and no matter how hard we parents try to keep it from them, they know when Mom and Dad aren't getting along, and it's hard on them. Arggg! It's so tough!
I also think that your wife's family is WAY too involved in your marriage. Holy cow! I certainly would not be able to deal with that. I think I'd give the ultimatum of either move away from the family and "start fresh", or we split, because you chose to spend the rest of your life, every day, with HER, NOT her PARENTS. I probably should have organized my thoughts a bit more, but, man, I just feel for you. You seem like a responsible, genuine guy, and it seems your wife has a lot of growing up to do. Just because you give birth, doesn't mean that you're mature enough to handle the necessities of a good marriage. Divorce sucks, but sometimes even with children involved it's best in order for the parents to be good parents, and that's really what the kids need most.
Good luck! Keep posting if you need to!

08-06-2007, 05:52 PM	#20 (permalink)
JustMe Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Florida Posts: 57	Re: can you help me save my marriage Hi Steve, I think the divorce thing completely depends on the couple/situation. I have 2 step sons and yes, having divorced parents was hard on them (and still is for the oldest at times), but IMO what's most important is that they're raised knowing that BOTH parents love them, no matter what. If you and your wife were to stay together "just for the kids", what kind of household will they grow up in? Kids are super intuitive and no matter how hard we parents try to keep it from them, they know when Mom and Dad aren't getting along, and it's hard on them. Arggg! It's so tough! I also think that your wife's family is WAY too involved in your marriage. Holy cow! I certainly would not be able to deal with that. I think I'd give the ultimatum of either move away from the family and "start fresh", or we split, because you chose to spend the rest of your life, every day, with HER, NOT her PARENTS. I probably should have organized my thoughts a bit more, but, man, I just feel for you. You seem like a responsible, genuine guy, and it seems your wife has a lot of growing up to do. Just because you give birth, doesn't mean that you're mature enough to handle the necessities of a good marriage. Divorce sucks, but sometimes even with children involved it's best in order for the parents to be good parents, and that's really what the kids need most. Good luck! Keep posting if you need to!