| | Re: Desperately want to end wife's affair
Sounds like you're on top of things. And I think you're going above and beyond by contacting her family and owning up to your part in the prior state of your marriage.
Just keep moving forward. When she says she has to think about things, she really means that she wants things to stay exactly as they are. The other man for romance and sex and you for your paycheck. If you'll just give her more time, as her meal ticket, she might decide you're not such a bad backup plan after all. Don't buy it. For you, things should either get better, or they should end. There is no third option.
Keep the pace of your divorce and personal change slow and steady, but ever-forward.