Originally Posted by chapparal
How many texts emails a month does your wife and OM exchange? You said she hangs onto her phone. Do you hang onto your phone texting Jane? How many texts emails do you exchange with Jane? How serious/long was your wife's relationship with Joe?
Did yop tell Jane your marriage was a failure? Did you cut her off sexually when the baby was born? She said sex was very important to her, what happened?
Jane helped your with your wedding/marriage, how has Joe helped? You lied about one instance, she's lied your whole marriage.
Make a list and go over it with her. Do not get angry or show weak kneed emotion.
My communication with Jane is maybe 1 phone call per month and all of us going to dinner or her stopping by to see us and the baby for an hour. I'm totally fine with NC with Jane and even told her it might be a reality (much to her dismay at losing a friend, but she understood)
As far as I can tell, her emails and texts are sporadic but often enough that she in certainly in closer communication than I am with my friend. Sometimes a gap of a month, but recently (in January when she started venting about her marriage) it's heated up. That's why I posted on this board to begin with. Saw it escalating.