Originally Posted by isla~mama
Then why is he rolling his eyes and scoffing at me when I say I only want to do it if he genuinely wants it? Shouldn't it be easy enough for him to say-- yes! I want it! Get those clothes off baby!
But he just scoffs and says sarcastically, "Oh, if *I* want it." and then starts talking about something else.
Hmmm..I wonder what his game is? Certainly sounds like he's playing one but maybe he's the type who can't express himself well.
Hey, you are talking to the ultimate pessimist/cynic here.
I'm in a similar situation in that I don't want to divorce my husband. There's a lot about him that I like but we are separated now and I see the only "fix" is for us to be friends. I was hoping that would be "with benefits" but that's up to him. I'm no longer chasing, pleading, cajoling, etc.
It gets to a point where you are just tired of being shot down, of having your pride stepped on repeatedly.
Plus, having sex with someone who isn't into it, who doesn't talk to you or touch you or just LUST after you is pretty demeaning and sad, isn't it?