Originally Posted by Devastated2
The child support amount is not going to be enough for her to live on. She is going to have to get a job in order to take care of herself and our boys. She is terrified and furious about her financial situation that I "put her in". She regrets giving up so much for me, and thinks that I ruined her life. She is worried about having to drop out of school and take our boys to live with her parents out of state.
First, this is WAY too early to be talking about divorce settlements. Shut the hell up! Right now, ALL you need to be talking about is her giving up OM. Period.
Even if you have decided that you're 'sure' you don't want her any more, you're making the most important decision of your life at a time when your emotions are so over the board that you don't even know what you really want.
Just slow down, back off, and focus on the issue at hand - stopping the affair. If you just kick her out, all she'll do is take YOUR kids and go live with him. Is that what you really want?
btw, I'm pretty sure she can't legally take the kids to another state without your permission. Stop letting all these things push your buttons, slow down, and get a clear head.