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kirablue · 03-14-2008, 08:26 AM

Hi Klop,
Wow! Interesting. I am thrilled to hear that you left your girlfriend, and are excited about the miracle of your child. I believe that you were given alot of excellent advice, I want to address only one thing that was brought up. I am prepared to get blasted for this, but this is what I truly believe. I absolutely believe that sex in marriage IS a duty, requirement, part of marriage that BOTH husband and wife are responsible to provide. When any of us get married, we make vows to do certain things for life. To be a little silly about it, we can get our food in a restaurant, or grocery store, at home or a friends house or many many other places, nothing wrong with that as a wife or a husband getting our food at many various places right lol. But sex is completely different, wives, husbands your spouse can ONLY get sex from you. If they get if from anywhere else it is wrong, BUT if they want it we should provide it if it is at all possible for us to do so(of course severe illness or other severe circumstances not included). Now does that mean if our spouse does not provide sex we are allowed to get it elsewhere? NO WAY, it still stands. When any of us are married sex comes from our spouse or not at all. I only believe that each of us should realize (my opinion again) that it is our very important responsibility to our spouse to provide for their sexual needs at all times. klob, I think you should have made it EXTREMELY respectfully clear to your wife how this desire of yours was not being fullfilled, and I think you should have taken all the energy you unfortunately took to your girlfriend on your wife to get your sex life back on track. Since you made very very clear that your straying was due to sexual lack in your marriage now that you have wonderfully decided to recommit to your wife and child, NOW tell her, make it COMPLETELY clear to her, in every way that you possibly can, how much you are wanting sex to be a part of your lives again. Explore every possibility in that area so that you are not left so wanting. Most women I know are open when their husband is open and honest and not HARSH with them. I hope for you both a happy healthy marriage and child.

03-14-2008, 08:26 AM	#49 (permalink)
kirablue Registered User Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 8	Re: Should I tell my girlfriend my wife is pregnant? Hi Klop, Wow! Interesting. I am thrilled to hear that you left your girlfriend, and are excited about the miracle of your child. I believe that you were given alot of excellent advice, I want to address only one thing that was brought up. I am prepared to get blasted for this, but this is what I truly believe. I absolutely believe that sex in marriage IS a duty, requirement, part of marriage that BOTH husband and wife are responsible to provide. When any of us get married, we make vows to do certain things for life. To be a little silly about it, we can get our food in a restaurant, or grocery store, at home or a friends house or many many other places, nothing wrong with that as a wife or a husband getting our food at many various places right lol. But sex is completely different, wives, husbands your spouse can ONLY get sex from you. If they get if from anywhere else it is wrong, BUT if they want it we should provide it if it is at all possible for us to do so(of course severe illness or other severe circumstances not included). Now does that mean if our spouse does not provide sex we are allowed to get it elsewhere? NO WAY, it still stands. When any of us are married sex comes from our spouse or not at all. I only believe that each of us should realize (my opinion again) that it is our very important responsibility to our spouse to provide for their sexual needs at all times. klob, I think you should have made it EXTREMELY respectfully clear to your wife how this desire of yours was not being fullfilled, and I think you should have taken all the energy you unfortunately took to your girlfriend on your wife to get your sex life back on track. Since you made very very clear that your straying was due to sexual lack in your marriage now that you have wonderfully decided to recommit to your wife and child, NOW tell her, make it COMPLETELY clear to her, in every way that you possibly can, how much you are wanting sex to be a part of your lives again. Explore every possibility in that area so that you are not left so wanting. Most women I know are open when their husband is open and honest and not HARSH with them. I hope for you both a happy healthy marriage and child.