| | Re: She says she "lost herself"
Let her go. Work on yourself.
Your wayward wife is very selfish. You are better off without her.
Your wife is also a big liar. Her finding herself is finding herself right into another relationship. Probably went physical too.
Definitely see an attorney. You should act as fast as you can to protect yourself. I would file for a divorce asap to throw her off balance. Also let your inlaws know about the contact she has had with om and how long it has been going on.
Use the 180 to improve. And you need to go dark on her.
I would go talk to your human resources dept. about their nonsense as well.
Good Luck and Keep posting. At least you see her true colors. Your wife is a cheater and a coward. You can do better. Go find a woman who knows who she is. I love that excuse!