Originally Posted by ScaredandUnsure
I'm confused on what good would it do for anyone to know how many partners their S/O had in the past? If the person had 10 partners 25 years ago, why does it matter? It's not like someone can jump into a time machine and go back to undo it. Why penalize someone for something they did years before their current partner even met them. Unless these people have children previously or uncurable STD's, that is different.
I don't think of it as penalizing someone for what they did, rather it is owning up to what they did.
It still remains that some things are deal breakers for some people. Perhaps a young person would be turned away if their fiance had 10 partners in the past 2 years. That young person has the right to his/her values and to be turned away by the fiance's past.
That would be the consequence to having 10 partners in 2 years. At the time the choice was made to have sex with each of those partners a different choice could have been made, but wasn't.
History is fact, and it makes us suitable for some partners and not suitable for others. Lying and pretending to avoid consequences isn't going to end well.