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IMCONCERNED · 03-15-2008, 05:39 PM

I have been married for going on 30 years now and have always considered my marriage to be strong and have had no real reason to believe she has cheated on me. Lately, I have noticed what I feel is a difference in the way my wife treats me. To be more specific, at times, she seems somewhat distant and cold towards me. She seldom initiates a hug or kiss goodnight and sometimes seems bothered when I take the initiative. When I try to talk to her about it she will blame it on the stresses of her job or she will just get mad and say something like “what did I do now and how should I act.” which solves nothing. Some of the problem may be that I gained some weight recently, (about 35 pounds) and she did complain about that and I am trying to improve. (by the way, I have never complained about her weight when similar gains happened to her) Sex life is okay but she seems to want to get it done with quickly then there is no hugging or cuddling afterwards. I don’t mean to sound like whimp but I miss the affection we used to share.

Now, the reason I have suddenly become more concerned about our relationship. She was away from the house today so I thought I would try to do a little extra around the house so I started the laundry. In the pile of dirty clothes I found a pair of crotchless panties that I have never saw before. Actually, she has always been very conservative about clothing like that and I didn’t even know she owned anything like that. Additionally, they looked a little faded like they had been through the wash more than a few times so it’s not like she just got them.

Yes, there is more to the story, there always is, but I don’t want to write a our life story down.

So, should I be concerned about the clothing and should I ask her about them knowing that it will make her mad?

03-15-2008, 05:39 PM	#1 (permalink)
IMCONCERNED Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 2	Question for women? I have been married for going on 30 years now and have always considered my marriage to be strong and have had no real reason to believe she has cheated on me. Lately, I have noticed what I feel is a difference in the way my wife treats me. To be more specific, at times, she seems somewhat distant and cold towards me. She seldom initiates a hug or kiss goodnight and sometimes seems bothered when I take the initiative. When I try to talk to her about it she will blame it on the stresses of her job or she will just get mad and say something like “what did I do now and how should I act.” which solves nothing. Some of the problem may be that I gained some weight recently, (about 35 pounds) and she did complain about that and I am trying to improve. (by the way, I have never complained about her weight when similar gains happened to her) Sex life is okay but she seems to want to get it done with quickly then there is no hugging or cuddling afterwards. I don’t mean to sound like whimp but I miss the affection we used to share. Now, the reason I have suddenly become more concerned about our relationship. She was away from the house today so I thought I would try to do a little extra around the house so I started the laundry. In the pile of dirty clothes I found a pair of crotchless panties that I have never saw before. Actually, she has always been very conservative about clothing like that and I didn’t even know she owned anything like that. Additionally, they looked a little faded like they had been through the wash more than a few times so it’s not like she just got them. Yes, there is more to the story, there always is, but I don’t want to write a our life story down. So, should I be concerned about the clothing and should I ask her about them knowing that it will make her mad?