Originally Posted by nightshade
Whether or not she is, it's no legitimate reason for his behavior.
Well, there can be reasons - I have a friend that refuses to stock any food in the house because if it is in the fridge or the pantry, his wife will eat it. He said that once he bought a bucket of KFC, dropped it off to go get something else, came back, and she had eaten the entire thing! Didn't leave him a wing!
But I digress... I agree with MT here - it sounds like a mental illness. Has he been evaluated? Working on base, one would think that is standard practice.
There is no reason he is treating you the way he is.
I'm not advocating risking your well being - but have you tried standing up for yourself?
Doing things like witholding food and imprisoning you (by disabling the car) ARE abuse. He doesn't need to hit you to be abusive!!!