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qq49h · 03-15-2008, 11:20 PM

I'm not sure how to deal with this so I would like some opinions. Some background first. I have been married to my wife for 8 years now. We have 4 kids all under the age of 6. Yes, we are very busy. I am 35 and my wife is 30. I have a pretty good job and my wife owns businesses.
In the last couple of months my wife has taking a liking to going out and having a few drinks. Sometimes or actually most of the time she doesn't come home. She either sleeps at one of her businesses or at somebody's house.
I have tried to be supportive of these happenings because I did this when I was younger. She never had that opportunity since she dated a boring guy since she was 15 and I scooped her up after that.
Tuesday was our 8 year anniversary and she told me that she wanted to go to the ACC basketball tournament in North Carolina. My impression that this was for one day and she would be home later that night. She said she was going to go with 2 college kids(that I know). I think they are harmless since one has a girlfriend and the other I have never seen with a girlfriend before. On Wednesday, during a conversation she said "Well I won't be here tomorrow night". Apparently, I misunderstood or she forgot to mention that she was leaving Thursday afternoon and not returning Saturday evening. I was shocked and had to take awhile to let that sink in. I was still trying to be supportive but I thought this was going overboard on her part.
She left and I was very hurt and angry. I was under the impression that she thought this was ok so I called her and explained that it isn't normal to leave her family for 3 days with no notice and with 2 college kids. She said “who says this isn’t normal”. When I got home I looked for the note that says what hotel and other information that she said she left. It wasn’t there. I asked about it and she said “I left it on the counter”. It wasn’t there and it wasn’t a big deal to her that I couldn’t find it.
She is back now we mostly texted the time she was gone but I barely knew what she was doing and didn’t even get the hotel information until the next day.
I’m tired of typing now. Any opinions on this? She has never done anything like this but I don’t have a reason not to trust her. Sorry for the poor grammar.

03-15-2008, 11:20 PM	#1 (permalink)
qq49h Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 11	opinions I'm not sure how to deal with this so I would like some opinions. Some background first. I have been married to my wife for 8 years now. We have 4 kids all under the age of 6. Yes, we are very busy. I am 35 and my wife is 30. I have a pretty good job and my wife owns businesses. In the last couple of months my wife has taking a liking to going out and having a few drinks. Sometimes or actually most of the time she doesn't come home. She either sleeps at one of her businesses or at somebody's house. I have tried to be supportive of these happenings because I did this when I was younger. She never had that opportunity since she dated a boring guy since she was 15 and I scooped her up after that. Tuesday was our 8 year anniversary and she told me that she wanted to go to the ACC basketball tournament in North Carolina. My impression that this was for one day and she would be home later that night. She said she was going to go with 2 college kids(that I know). I think they are harmless since one has a girlfriend and the other I have never seen with a girlfriend before. On Wednesday, during a conversation she said "Well I won't be here tomorrow night". Apparently, I misunderstood or she forgot to mention that she was leaving Thursday afternoon and not returning Saturday evening. I was shocked and had to take awhile to let that sink in. I was still trying to be supportive but I thought this was going overboard on her part. She left and I was very hurt and angry. I was under the impression that she thought this was ok so I called her and explained that it isn't normal to leave her family for 3 days with no notice and with 2 college kids. She said “who says this isn’t normal”. When I got home I looked for the note that says what hotel and other information that she said she left. It wasn’t there. I asked about it and she said “I left it on the counter”. It wasn’t there and it wasn’t a big deal to her that I couldn’t find it. She is back now we mostly texted the time she was gone but I barely knew what she was doing and didn’t even get the hotel information until the next day. I’m tired of typing now. Any opinions on this? She has never done anything like this but I don’t have a reason not to trust her. Sorry for the poor grammar.