ccollins

I am so confused, angry, & hurt I don’t know what to do. I had my 1st date w/ my husband in 1999 but decided to stay friends. Around 2004 we started dating again & everything was going fine. We got married in Feb. 2007 & he changed in a matter of months. Before we got married he helped cook & clean but stopped after we got married. Apparently cooking & cleaning was my job even though my commute to & from work was about 4 times longer than his. When he stopped helping around the house he started hanging out a lot. & I was furious because I’m working a full time job & coming home to cook & clean while he was laughing w/ his friends having a beer. So 1 day were arguing about him hanging out & he just walks out. He moves up the street to his grandma’s.

When we talked he would bring up coming back home in the conversation. But it was always “if I come back are you going to act right,” so I never told him it was ok for him to comeback. So we talk off & on for about 3 months & he tells me he’s getting an apartment but he really wants to come home. He uses the same line “if I come home will you act right“. I told him good luck w/ his apartment. So I ask him where his apartment was & he wouldn’t tell me but he’s still saying he wants to come home. So after all this baby please let me come home I ain’t sleeping with nobody crap I decide to look up his address. So I go online & find it. I had tried to call him to talk to him earlier I’m thinking we need to talk to settle this once & for all. Heck I even entertained the thought of him coming home. So I go to his apartment thinking he’ll be happy to see me since he loves me so much & misses me & ain't seeing no one according to him.

But I get to the apartment & the there’s a womans car that lives down the street from me @ his apartment. Before we got married she used to say she was sleeping with him but I took it with a grain of salt she’s a known liar. But then again maybe she was actually telling the truth. Here’s the killer she’s his cousin. I feel like a fool because I actually was thinking about getting back with him. I wanted to go ballistic. Heck I still want to go ballistic. I’m like how can you disregard my feeling like that. We live in a small town I was going to find out sooner or later. I just don’t know how you can do this to someone your supposed to love.

I know her boyfriend should I call him & tell him or let him find out?

Ladies & gentlemen I need some tips to help we cope or work through this situation. The only thing I can come up with is finding a apartment until we get divorced, everywhere I look in my home reminds me of him.