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capricorngirl_99 · 02-07-2012, 12:18 AM

Here is my situation: Once upon a time, my fiance, who is 27 and I (I'm 28)were living out on our own. He was an engineer and I was a retail associate. However, the company he was working for laid him off, so we had no choice but to move back home with one of our parents. We were about to move in with my parents until he got a job interview near where his parents live. So we decide to move in with them instead until we go back on our feet.

Needless to say, my fiance didn't get that job and we are still living with his parents 7 months later. He now works a minimum wage job, while I have yet to secure a job, after putting in many applications. I had a job interview the other day and I just found out that I didn't get it. It really upset me because I have been trying so hard, but nothing has come of it. I didn't feel like telling anyone but my fiance, but I put a status about it on Facebook. His mother came online and wrote "Everything will be okay and you will have a place to live until you guys find something."

Apparently, this didn't bode well with my mother, who feels I should call her and talk about EVERY aspect of my life. She got angry when she read what my future mother-in-law wrote. She told me that some of the things that she says sometimes makes her feel inadequate as a mother. The only things that my mother in law tell me is that she is there for me and that she loves me. I know that I was wrong in not calling my mother to talk to her about it, but damn, what is so wrong about my mother in law being so supportive?

I just feel like my mom makes everything about her sometimes and that she is the only one that should be in my life. She gets jealous over my fiance too as well. The thing is, I call her every day. Sometimes, we talk twice a day. I also try to come home and visit her at least once a month and I stay there for five days. I just feel like I can't please her either way and I try so hard to make everything equal between her and my mother and law. What should I do. Thanks and sorry for writing such a novel!

02-07-2012, 12:18 AM	#1 (permalink)
capricorngirl_99 Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Middle of Nowhere, USA Posts: 40	Mom is jealous of my future-mother-in law Here is my situation: Once upon a time, my fiance, who is 27 and I (I'm 28)were living out on our own. He was an engineer and I was a retail associate. However, the company he was working for laid him off, so we had no choice but to move back home with one of our parents. We were about to move in with my parents until he got a job interview near where his parents live. So we decide to move in with them instead until we go back on our feet. Needless to say, my fiance didn't get that job and we are still living with his parents 7 months later. He now works a minimum wage job, while I have yet to secure a job, after putting in many applications. I had a job interview the other day and I just found out that I didn't get it. It really upset me because I have been trying so hard, but nothing has come of it. I didn't feel like telling anyone but my fiance, but I put a status about it on Facebook. His mother came online and wrote "Everything will be okay and you will have a place to live until you guys find something." Apparently, this didn't bode well with my mother, who feels I should call her and talk about EVERY aspect of my life. She got angry when she read what my future mother-in-law wrote. She told me that some of the things that she says sometimes makes her feel inadequate as a mother. The only things that my mother in law tell me is that she is there for me and that she loves me. I know that I was wrong in not calling my mother to talk to her about it, but damn, what is so wrong about my mother in law being so supportive? I just feel like my mom makes everything about her sometimes and that she is the only one that should be in my life. She gets jealous over my fiance too as well. The thing is, I call her every day. Sometimes, we talk twice a day. I also try to come home and visit her at least once a month and I stay there for five days. I just feel like I can't please her either way and I try so hard to make everything equal between her and my mother and law. What should I do. Thanks and sorry for writing such a novel!