| | Hubby refuses sex and denies me sex toys
I have an earlier thread that is Help hubby refuses sex. I have been contemplating a vibrator for a while to off set my frustrations so I can think clearer and help us sort through this. I picked one that is small so there is no disparity to his manhood.( I do not enjoy overly large men so I picked one with my preferences in mind) When spouse found out he got mad, and now is not talking to me. Did I do something wrong. I have never wanted one of these so I do not know the normal conduct for this in a relationship. I did not ask him to participate with me, knowing he would say no. I am an attractive woman who takes care of herself physically. So this refusal of sex is not because of my body, I also weigh less than when we got married. It is really the idea of me enjoying sex that seems to be abhorrent to him. At least that is what it seems to me. I think there is this virgin Mary thing he views me as. he talks of his great respect for me daily, and how blessed he is that I am his wife. He is also overly affectionate cuddler.
So did I do something to make him feel inadequate as a man?