Originally Posted by RClawson

How timely. I was thinking today about cutting myself off from this site because of the sadness that it has evoked and how it has brought some things to the forefront of my mind that I was not dealing with.

I absolutely love reading the posts about those couples that have overcome adversity to save and enhance their relationships. It gives me great hope.

This site helped me to reach out to a counselor to get the help I need. I will be forever grateful.

It has taken me years to understand the depths of love for my wife. By today's definition she is not a "hottie" but I would not give her up for a "10". The last few years have been difficult for me professionally and I think it has taken a toll on her. She has said some things that have been cruel and those have been some of the most disappointing moments in my life.

The experiences of others here have helped me to realize that I can never be patient, kind or loving enough towards her. I have also learned that I need to work on improving myself and not be so wrapped up in her. We are not close to having the relationship I want for us but we are so much closer than we were 6 months ago.

thanks to all of you!