Quote:
Originally Posted by Immortalone
If two people decide to divorce why do they think that means the familey must divorce each other also?
|
This is a really good question.....
my thinking on this subject is it all depends on the family. i was so torn when i divorced my ex. i loved his family. i love his sister like my own. my nieces and nephews too. How was i suppose to just "let them go" when i have loved them for so long? its hard. his sister and i still talk allthe time, his nephew even still plays WoW with me. I even have a better relationship with his mom now. His other siblings i dont talk to much.
On the subject about the wife getting upset about the dad visiting his "other" granchildren....it seems to me that she maybe jealous. it is hard to let go of family that you have been with for awhile. and i am sure it isnt any easier when kids are involved.
I really do hope your wife can let this go and see that it really isnt that big of a deal. I dont see why it could piss her off. Honestly, it has NOTHING to do with her and he is a grown man and can do whatever he wants to do. she has no right to judge him or ANYONE for that matter. how dare she say that he isnt allowed in the house?? i mean, wtf?! im sorry but that is very selfish and rude. nobody should ask you to choose between family and anything, to me, family will ALWAYS come first.
You just can let go of "family" that easily even if they arent blood related.
edit to add: and yes, my husband knows i still talk to my ex's family and he is totally cool with it. he has even let my ex sister in law stay with us when she came to visit.