swedish

It sounds to me as if your wife is overwhelmed with working and having four little ones to care for and is looking for a break from it all. Although I can understand her need for some time on her own, I agree with the other posts that it's not normal to take off for days with other men. I would feel pretty hurt by that myself. I know young children need 24/7 care and she probably feels that when she is home, she knows that she will not have time for herself, so she is forcing her alone time by socializing at night. It would be nice if you could talk to her and get to the bottom of what she's getting from this and see if she can get the same result in other ways that are not hurtful to you. No hug and kiss when she returned doesn't sound right either. It sounds as though you both could use some time together without the kids to talk and reconnect and work on fulfilling whatever needs she is feeling are not being met.