Originally Posted by sam36666
how do i get her back atleast as a friend.. i dont know how to behave
with her, all plans are going wasted.. please teach me how i behave to
get her back here after..
Sam, please answer these questions... how old are you and her? How long did you date her?
I doubt you will get her back.
She is getting married. She and her husband will not want her to be friends with her old boyfriends. This helps to prevent cheating in a marriage.
You cheated on her. Do you know how bad it hurts to be cheated on? You yelled at her, said bad things to her. That's called abuse.
You say you are a bad person. It sounds like you need to make some changes in your life so that you can see yourself as a good person and stop doing bad things.
Your actions and your words are everything. They are who you are.
Take some time to be by youself and to learn how to do good. Then after a while find another woman and get to know her.. and be good to her.
If you want to talk about what is the difference between doing good and doing wrong. Write about something bad you did and we can discuss a better way to handle it.
For example you cheated a lot. Why did you cheat. Did you cheat with several women? Or one woman over and over. The way you prevent yourself from cheating is to stay away from situations that lead to it. What were the situations that led to you cheating? Can you describe them?
And other example is you said that you scolded her and said bad things. Well you just cannot do that. You have no right to scold her and to say bad things. Just do not do it. If you do something wrong and you are called down for it just admit it... say "Yes I did wrong. I appologize for what I did. What can do to make it up to you?" That is how a man, a real man, behaves.
If you are angry, stop, do not say anything until you control of your anger. Yelling at her is not going to make her forget what you did. It's not going to make you look any better or feel any better.
So there were two quick lessons on who to be a better person.