Amplexor

You are not alone. Some of your post reminds me of my marriage a year ago. Not seeming to have anything in common. Our marriage is still on the rocks for various reasons but my wife and I are back to being really great friends and we enjoy being with each other. It appears you have both withdrawn from the relationship. You said you were a selfish person. That may drive him away to other hobbies. He is too busy with work and hobbies and doesn’t spend time with you alone. You feel alone. Because he gives you less, you give him less and visa vers. See the pattern. A couple of suggestions. First make time for the two of you to discuss your feelings. Second you should both read Chapman’s Five Languages of Love. Find out what your love languages are and try to do those things for each other. Make time for each other together with out the kids. Take dancing lessons, have a regular date night. Meet for lunch someplace that’s just for you two every couple of weeks. If you don’t like the same TV shows trade off weekends and rent a movie. One week one you’d like to watch, the next him. Watch them together and snuggle up. Spending time together can bring back a lot to a relationship. My bet is if you do it you’ll find more in common than you thought you had. Good luck.

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Amp

Confidence – Love – Patience – Faith Are the tools to help heal a marriage.