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ok last night i figured out that the one way to save this was through her parents. i worte the a leet. whaMartha and Willard


Back in April of 2001 I met your daughter. I was stopping buy to buy a bottle of liquor. I had no intentions on meeting the woman of my dreams. That day when Shelia told me they didn’t accept debt cards I was shocked. When I left out of the store I could not believe the beautiful woman I had seen standing at the end of the counter. I had to go to the atm and get money out just so I could see her one more time. When I walked back in the store this beautiful woman waited on me and I headed to my car. All the while I was being followed by another woman. This woman asked if was married and I responded no, and then asked why? She said well that pretty little ole blonde in there just thinks your cute. I said well if she really does go back in there and tell her to come out here and talk to me. Well this woman came out to my car and the first thing I asked her was if she was serious or if they were playing a trick on me. She said no I am serious. I said well give me your number and I will call you later. When I got home I could not believe how such a beautiful woman would have interest in me. Just the way she carried herself at the time made me happy. Well later that night I learned that she had a son. His name was Tyler. I asked her if she wanted to go to dinner and and she said yes let me find a baby sitter. I said no you do not need to get a baby sitter. I said just bring him along. He is a part of you and I want to meet all of you. I cannot remember what day it was I think It was on April 5 when we first went to dinner at Applebee’s. the thing I remember most about that evening is Tyler throwing a chicken tender down the walkway and Jennifer saying don’t do that and I was laughing my butt off. She was so concerned at the time about his actions and I knew how children are and didn’t hold that against her. We had a great time and we went our separate ways for the night. Well two days later I invited Jennifer over to my place and I was going to cook her and Tyler dinner on me. Well when she arrived Tyler was running around my apt. having a good old time. It didn’t bother me a bit but Jennifer was getting aggravated and then he started to spit on my couch and I was laughing at him. Jennifer grabbed him and went down to her car. I followed her down and when we got her car she began to cry. She said I am sorry we will just go home because he is acting like this. I said no worry I will get all the things I was going to cook and bring them to your house and we can cook there. Well from that day on think me and Jennifer really clicked. We fell hard and fast for each other and only god knows why. I can not sit here and say we were meant to be together but I can say that I love your daughter with all my heart. She is not perfect and neither am I. we got married for all the wrong reasons but we seemed to find love and happiness in the end. Our relationship has had its share of ups and downs. But in the end of every arguments or disagreement me and her always found love again. Martha and Willard back in November of 2001 you gave me the right to marry you daughter. Martha you were the only witness to this. On that day you gave me your daughter. You trusted me with her. “to have and told from this day forward, fore better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and cherish.” those are very very powerful words right there. I was young I was scared when I said those words. Martha Jennifer was too. I am sure you remember her crying that day. Willard when I got back to the store you told me I had better get back to work and make some money cause she was all mine now. I did, I went back to work. I have gone back everyday since. To provide what ever I could for her to make her happy. To provide for my family. When I left out of the house that Saturday there was one picture on the fridge that has been there since me and Jennifer were only two weeks into our relationship. It is a picture of me sitting in front of the stove holding Tyler. I don’t know if it still up there now but it was when I left. Jennifer called me about a guitar that my dad had got for me 8 years ago after I had moved out. I told her to give it to Tyler and that I left it for him. She asked why because it had so much sentimental value to it. I said Jennifer, Tyler is the only son I have in my life and I want to hand it down to him. I have no use for it and he will and has played with it more than I have. You see I have come from a broken home. It is no happy place. My mother did everything in her power when I was a child to make sure I saw my dad. She would take me to see him. He has a lot of problems and I have learned to accept them and forgive him for the past but it wasn’t enjoying. When I turned 18 I asked my mother why they didn’t work out. I then found out it was because of abuse on his part. She told me he has a disease that he cannot control and there was no other way to handle it other than divorce. She said I am sorry it happened and you just remember he loves you even though he doesn’t act like it always. There is a lot about my past that not many people do not know. From that day on I made a promise to myself to never bring a child into this world without doing everything I could to make sure mommy and daddy were still together. When I went to baseball practice or football I always looked out into the stands. My mother was always there. But my father wasn’t. I could never understand that. You see with Tyler that’s what I think every time I think about what is happening now. Tyler loves me more than he loves DJ I think. Everyday he say’s Steve I wish you could come home. How am I supposed to answer those comments? What do I say? I am sorry Tyler me and your mother cant get along? No that is not what I am going to say. I will comfort him. You know if we get this divorce I will still be there in the stands. I want you two to think about this. There is no other person in this world that has supported that child more than me. I don’t mean that in a rude way but I am serious. You two have a business to run and I understand that. I will not hold that against you. The only time I missed a practice or a game was when I was on second shift. If I could take them days off I would. I have always wanted to coach him but couldn’t because of haily being too young to let roam. Tyler is my son. I can say that without second thinking. I love him and I think you two know that. I shouldn’t have to prove that to you. Haily is my daughter but I do not love her anymore than I do Tyler. In my heart they are equal. I have known Tyler longer than I have haily. Now lets talk about your daughter. Jennifer is amazing. She can make me smile when I am upset she can make me mad at the drop of a dime. She knows how to push my buttons and I know how to push hers. We do argue a lot but all that can be fixed. When we left out of counseling Dee told us not to buy a new house. We were not done. We just quit going cause we thought we were done. We were happy at first but once the money became tight we began to argue a lot more. We should have never accepted the money from you two. that’s another thing. People always told me you two were loaded. You see money never meant anything to me my whole life. I never had it as a child. I have worked since I was 11 years old on a paper route. Riding my bike delivering papers. When it came time for me to drive I waited till I was 17 to get my license. I took my driving course in the car that I bought with my hard earned money. When I got behind the wheel I was responsible for my gas and any costs. Driving was a privilege to me. Now how does that all fit in? Willard me and you sat on your screened in porch after you had your surgery. You sat there and told me about all the money you have made in your life time. The millions and millions of dollars that aren’t accounted for. You said is wasn’t blown but it was used for good purposes for the children. You said you wanted them to have anything they wanted and to never want. You sir said all of these things and you had a tear running down your face. You made it a point to get me outside that day and actually sent haily back in the house when she came out. I don’t know why you opened up to me that day. You see in the last 3.5 years working at bowater I figured this much about life. Money cannot buy you happiness. If I could get my old job back and be home with my family everyday I would. I would rather be poor how I was raised and have all the love in the world. To me money is nothing. It is just paper. The more you make the more you spend the bigger your problems. Money comes and goes in your life but when the money is gone who do you have left to make you happy? Love however comes around only when the stars align. This is what I think about every time I work second shift. Why should I be at work when I have three people at home who love me. Martha I know Jennifer took that letter to the store and let all of you read it. Well that’s me in a nut shell. You said you feel sorry for me. From what I heard it made you cry. Do not feel sorry for me. I am a grown man. I will heal. If you are going to be sorry for anyone you be sorry for them children. Children are the only ones who get hurt in divorce. Like the judge said that day in court. He said people always talk about how they came out better but in fact the children always come in last. I did not want this divorce. Jennifer did not want this divorce. If you want proof I will prove it too you. The day before I a called the police she told me she didn’t. she told me. I think that’s why she reacted the way she did the next day. She was lost and helpless. She didn’t know what to do. Jennifer loves me I know she does and I know she doesn’t want this still. I honestly think she is holding back from stopping it because she doesn’t think you two will accept it. As a matter of fact I know that is what it is. Yes I have a audio tape of what happened that night and yes I have used it to make clear my name with people who asked about that night. I did not tape her that night or call the police that night to use it against her in court or to prove her unfit.I didn’t have a lawyer or a consultation until Jennifer told me she had one. I had no intention on leaving her. I know Jennifer. Maybe better than you two now. I wanted to play it back to her so she would realize what we were going through. That we needed more help. Amanda has heard the tape. As a matter of fact she is the first one who even knew about it. I cried on the phone with her that day after listening to it. She did too. I was wrong for calling the police that night and if I could make it disappear I would. But lets just say it was me doing that to your daughter. Would she be in the wrong for calling them on me? No. she wouldn’t. when I learned of how my dad treated my mother I made a vow with myself to never put my hands on a woman. Yes I have held Jennifer before to keep her from flipping out further. But it was never in anyway meant to hurt her. Jennifer is scared to give me all of her. I do not know why. I think she is scared to go against you two. You have done everything for her for the last 29 years and I cannot compete with that………….. What I can promise you is that I will do everything in my power to make sure she is happy when you two are gone. There isn’t many good people in this world and I realize now going through this I do have many faults of my own but I love you daughter and I do not want to loose her. I do not want to loose my family. If we could go back to counseling and learn how to better deal with our anger we could be happy. We are happy together. No she doesn’t need me and I don’t need her. But you two gave her to me years ago. Do not take her from me now. We can fix this. When I called the police she let you guys take over her life. We have so much money tied up in this right now it doesn’t seem right to go back now but trust me it would be worth it. We owe this to our children to work this out. We can sell the house give your money back, give the attorney fees back. Pay my mother back. Be broke and start over by ourselves. With my family. If my mother knew what I was doing right now she would be mad at me. But you know what I don’t care what she thinks. She is not the one who will or who has made me happy in the last 7 years. Other than my mother everyone in my family thinks we need to plow through this and make it work. I even told my mother I was doing the wrong thing. All she said was do what’s in your heart Steve. She said I raised you the best way I knew how you are your own man now, I am very proud of you and you have a family to look after. DO NOT LET THEM DOWN. They need you more than you know. You see this is what makes me keep hoping and praying for this to not go through. I will say this too. I will not quit until the papers are signed. I want to spend my life with Jennifer. You two think we are not good for each other. This is my hold up. I talked about my childhood above. When haily or Tyler comes up to me and asks why me and momma didn’t stay together what am I going to say? We argued too much? The truth is we never tried to fix us. We were too selfish. We never put you kids first in our life. We never over turned over every rock in our problems to find the solution. We never tried. We just gave up. Martha and Willard. All I am asking is for you two to think about this. There is still time for us to go see someone and try to fix our issues. We both miss each other. You gave me your daughter 6 years ago and I am asking for your blessing to try to patch this up. If we don’t succeed then fine. We can say we did everything in our power. We can say we tried. I want to apologize for the phone call I made to you two a couple months ago. I was blaming everyone else but myself at the time for our problems. You two have loved me for 6 years and learned to hate me in 3 months. Why? Martha you have always told me that Willard has said that no matter what if something happened to me and Jennifer that I would always be his son. I am not begging I am not pleading with you. I just want to make right what me and her have made wrong. If you would just give us three months to talk about this to Dee or anyone I believe we can fix this. When we went the first time me and her never gave it our all. We don’t have to postpone anything. We can remain separated for all I care. I will live here. She can live there. I will not ever hold our problems over the kids head. I just want one more chance. Let me have it and I will show you me and her are perfect together. Thank you for you time and my door is always open to you two also. I want to be there for your daughter when you two are gone. I want to make our vows last forever. Thank you and regardless of what you think I love you two.



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