| | Re: everyones option: breaking up
I agree with you soundofthesphere to some degree ... I don't think people should just tolerate mistakes though if they are getting hurt in the process.
But I do understand what you mean when I read your comment. I have been viewing a few posts this last week and it is very easy for someone to say 'just divorce them', 'run for the hills' ... Mostly people are here to try and make it work, or looking for validation, or just to talk. We shouldn't advise people to leave their marriages when we only really know one side unless of course there are extreme circumstances like abuse, blatant disrespect etc.
A marriage involves two people, children, extended families, money etc ... real feelings and real people. And yes I agree with you, mistakes happen. And if there's love and willingness, however terrible the crime in the marriage, if there is hope their can be healing. Just because a partner is aloof or cheats, does not necessarily mean everytime they need to be advised to 'get out while you can!' because most of the time, they don't want to hear that, they want advice on how to make it work.
You wouldn't tell your best friend to leave their marriage unless you were absolutely sure of the situation.