Re: everyones option: breaking up
Of all the relationship boards that I have visited, I have found this one to be the most restrained in terms of not meting out so quickly the tired old "accept/reject" paradigm or drop his sorry ass.
I realise that there could come a point in every relationship and type of relationship that it must be dissolved. But I try to look for strategies to avoid that point to the extent possible.
I like the way this board makes definition suggestions about going forward in relationship like
1) an R is impossible when the WS is still seeing the AP.
2) transparency is required for a relationship and so on.
That second one has been very helpful for me going forward. Fortunately, my guy offered to let me see his FB account, e-mail account and text messages before I even thought I had the "right to ask.
But after thinking things through, I feel strongly that if a guy expects me to turn down dating other men and to reserve my free time solely for him (or to explain why not when we do things apart), then, quite frankly, he owes. If he wants to stay up late texting someone, slip out one Saturday night to see "just a friend" and then expect to still hang around, ummm, no I won't.
And what's really important here, is that I nipped this in the bid sooner rather later, so less damage to the relationship.
So add getting to grips with issues sooner rather than later as part of the strategy.
I'm not married now but EAs wrecked my marriage so I want to learn how to handle these things when it's to get out than after the wedding.
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