Originally Posted by Davy
I have been married for 9 years and I know my wife for 20 years now. When we meet she told me about her past two boyfriends and I had no girlfriends before. This has always been bothering me. All these years I have been living with her but mentally have blocked her out. We have son of 9 yrs old, she is the best Mom for him. I want to love her but jealousy does not let me forget her past.I am 47 , and she is 46. I wish there was a way to say its OK that she gave herself for the first time to some other ( she did love him) guy and then all these thoughts about her being intimate w/ these two guys . Look likes there is no hope for me.
You met her at 26 and are upset that she had two loving committed relationships prior to meeting you? You need counseling and I don't say that lightly. I mean you REALLY need counseling. You are "blocking her out" for something you perceive as wrong and something she did long before meeting you. Is it safe to assume then that you were a virgin at 27 when you met your now wife?