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Old 02-14-2012, 03:31 PM   #173 (permalink)
Therealbrighteyes
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Default Re: The girls night out debacle...

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Originally Posted by Hope1964 View Post
Hooters, strip clubs, meat market clubs, sports bars - whatever, the venue isn't the point.

The point is: IF your spouse has an issue with you going there, having the attitude that "I am just going to do whatever I want and to hell with him/her" is disrespectful and detrimental to your relationship. So is the attitude that you are FORBIDDING your spouse from going to said venue. The whole point is that RESPECTFUL spouses discuss these things and come to an agreement on what is comfortable FOR THEM.

I would never forbid my hubby from going to a strip club. But he knows what I think about them and, if he went, would be doing so knowing full well there's going to be an issue involved. So he doesn't go. Thankfully he's not the type to even WANT to go, which is an important value FOR ME in OUR relationship. Obviously it isn't in others relationships. And that's fine.

I do not understand why any woman would go on a GNO knowing full well her husband doesn't approve. For WHATEVER reason. But that's just me.
Don't get me wrong, if my husband had an issue with it...and we are talking MAYBE twice a year, I would not go. I would also have the same free reign on his life though. My point to all this was married men who have an issue with their wives going out, yet do the exact same thing but in a different venue called "guys time" should not expect that their wives are sitting at home, nor is it remotely fair.
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