I am new to this but needed advice. I have been married for 17 years with 2 kids, 10 ans 14 years old. My wife has been cold for years and never intiates sex and just treats it like a chore, when I do ask she just says lets go get this over with! I try to talk to her but it never works and ends up into an arguement. I have read other site for advice and they all say help more talk more be more understanding??? I cook dinner practically every night, I help do laundry, I vacuum, dust, help kids with home work, take them to dental,orthodontist,doctors appointments, on AND ON AND ON you get it. I do more than most other hubands around the house and it gets me very little. She will give sex when she feels I deserve it, once a week or when she by some out of this world reason might be in the mood. Valentines day just passed and I made her a romantic dinner with wine, and conversation but nothing not even a kiss or I love you??? I was close to cheating a few years back but I did not nor will I. I just need more out of her and not sure what I will do if things do not get any better. I am not looking for sex every night but the one time of week it does happen I want it to be of quality and not like a chore or duty to her. Any wives out there care to give me advice on how to fix my wife?