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Zak68 · 02-16-2012, 11:29 AM

My WS tried to kill herself a few months after I found out about the affair. She was still deep in the clutches of alcoholism and I had given up and told her to move out.

She went to rehab and came out new. She said that old person died that day and she is here to live again, no more cheating, no more drinking (sober 2.5 years now).

I see this new person and I am hopeful she has changed. The problem is she looks a lot like the cheating, drunk wife I had to deal with for 5 years. That's something I am having issues letting go.

Mahike, I completely get what you are saying. I can't find it in me to love her with my whole heart like I did before. I can't let myself be hurt that bad again and if I hold back I feel I am limiting my hurt when/if she does it again. The thing I realize is I can't truly be happy with her until I can give her my whole heart. Stuck in a rut here I can't get out of...

02-16-2012, 11:29 AM	#12 (permalink)
Zak68 Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Central IL Posts: 54	Re: Understanding the pain My WS tried to kill herself a few months after I found out about the affair. She was still deep in the clutches of alcoholism and I had given up and told her to move out. She went to rehab and came out new. She said that old person died that day and she is here to live again, no more cheating, no more drinking (sober 2.5 years now). I see this new person and I am hopeful she has changed. The problem is she looks a lot like the cheating, drunk wife I had to deal with for 5 years. That's something I am having issues letting go. Mahike, I completely get what you are saying. I can't find it in me to love her with my whole heart like I did before. I can't let myself be hurt that bad again and if I hold back I feel I am limiting my hurt when/if she does it again. The thing I realize is I can't truly be happy with her until I can give her my whole heart. Stuck in a rut here I can't get out of...