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JustMe · 08-07-2007, 07:09 PM

grnt,
I would be concerned about the hiding money and marajuana for sure! The cigarettes thing, well....I'm currently trying (AGAIN!!) to quit smoking. It's very, very, very hard! If she's lying about smoking cigs, it's for the same reason that I was "sneaking" them for a while: I'd make this big deal about quitting and that I was really going to do it this time, yadda, yadda. Then when it got too hard and I caved, I was frustrated and embarrassed and didn't want my husband or kids to know because I didn't want them disappointed in me, or mad at me, or whatever. So the cigs thing is something she has to decide for herself and only herself and she'll need alot of understanding and support. Again, it's a serious addiction, it's totally bad for you, and it's very, very, very hard to stop.

The marajuana....1. it's illegal! Whether or not it should be doesn't matter (I think it should be illegal btw) 2. She has a child. Pot alters your state of mind (I know, I did it when I was younger and stupider), it also well, it's pot, come on!

The hiding money....is she hiding it so she has money for pot/cigarettes? Or is there another reason? Usually women hide money when they're planning on leaving. I'm not saying she is, but just dig deeper into it.

Your title suggests that it's not necessarily the actions themselves but the lies she's telling about these actions that really gets you and I completely understand that. It is hard to trust someone who you know is lying to you. My suggestion is to not make any drastic divorce decisions until you know exactly what's going on and why. Or do you already know, and just didn't post it?

Just some thoughts...
Good luck!

08-07-2007, 07:09 PM	#2 (permalink)
JustMe Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Florida Posts: 57	Re: lies??? grnt, I would be concerned about the hiding money and marajuana for sure! The cigarettes thing, well....I'm currently trying (AGAIN!!) to quit smoking. It's very, very, very hard! If she's lying about smoking cigs, it's for the same reason that I was "sneaking" them for a while: I'd make this big deal about quitting and that I was really going to do it this time, yadda, yadda. Then when it got too hard and I caved, I was frustrated and embarrassed and didn't want my husband or kids to know because I didn't want them disappointed in me, or mad at me, or whatever. So the cigs thing is something she has to decide for herself and only herself and she'll need alot of understanding and support. Again, it's a serious addiction, it's totally bad for you, and it's very, very, very hard to stop. The marajuana....1. it's illegal! Whether or not it should be doesn't matter (I think it should be illegal btw) 2. She has a child. Pot alters your state of mind (I know, I did it when I was younger and stupider), it also well, it's pot, come on! The hiding money....is she hiding it so she has money for pot/cigarettes? Or is there another reason? Usually women hide money when they're planning on leaving. I'm not saying she is, but just dig deeper into it. Your title suggests that it's not necessarily the actions themselves but the lies she's telling about these actions that really gets you and I completely understand that. It is hard to trust someone who you know is lying to you. My suggestion is to not make any drastic divorce decisions until you know exactly what's going on and why. Or do you already know, and just didn't post it? Just some thoughts... Good luck!