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CC, do you have a Citizens Advice Bureau near you? I don't know if they have these things across the pond. Over here they are places where any person can go and get free advice about all sorts of things, like Divorce, claiming benefits, filling in forms etc. They are staffed by volunteer experts who give up a small amount of time each week to help out.

If you have something similar, then perhaps its worth going in and asking about what you can do about a Divorce, and what your rights are, before getting to the point where you need to pay a lawyer.

Regarding his attitude, with no parents from an early age, he has no role model showing how a loving marriage partnership should be. A grandparent, although loving, will never have shown him how a family works, the give and take involved. Also, if the house is yours, perhaps he feels a little inadequate by the fact you are the stronger better adjusted person, and the provider of the home. A need to assert his masculinity over you by making you do all the menial work as subservient to him.