| | Re: Feeling trapped + lonely in my marriage
EG, I still think the way you are treating your dog compared to your H is not healthy for the marriage at all (but that's my opinion only, and obviously your Lab is the loyal companion you need). While I'm trying to offer some suggestions that seem one-sided or unfair, I am certainly not trying to suggest you are to blame for state of disrepair and definitely not his depression or alcoholism. (I admire and am amazed at my mom's tolerance of my dad's alcoholism, she has spent decades sharing his bed while he is stinking drunk in it too, but I think it has damaged her in a lot of ways)
Sometimes marriage means giving and not taking for awhile, but only if that means working toward a common goal. If it isn't working like this and he is not willing to address his problems, seek counseling for his addictions and medical treatment for his depression it is not fair to ask you to put up with him like this the rest of your life. He is not able to meet your needs and many of those needs cannot be met in other ways, so if he is not willing to try to fix things or uphold his end of the commitment I advise to cut your losses, seek a divorce and start living the kind of life you need and want.