Coping

To Immortalone:
As for the him having the feelings of being needed, wanted, desired or loved, I have always been very affectionate and attentive towards him. I had never stopped showing him desire or love. On the contrary, I would have to point it out to him that he was the one not returning it, as I stated in my first post.

After all of these years of being together I have always wanted to give him affection. Kisses and hugs for no particular reason other than it felt right and it felt good doing it.

We connected right from the very beginning of when we first met 9.5 years ago. We both feel that we are each others soulmates. We have always had a very strong foundation in our relationship. Unfortunately, sometimes, things happen.

As for talking, we talk just about every day and night since the revelation and we both feel that we are going to get through this. He is aware of the pain that he has inflicted upon me. He sees it in my eyes, hears it in my voice. He has apologized multiple times and has even cried for putting me through this pain and hurt.

A few times I had suggested counseling but of course he was adament about not going. Now, he is willing to do whatever it will take to make this marriage better than what it ever was, to help me past the pain and the hurt that he has caused. He has even been talking with counselors so that we can select one and go talk to them.