Re: Addiction Problem or Motivation Problem?
I'm not sure if you should be worried about whether he has an actual addiction or not, but rather concentrate on what he is doing to stop the behaviours that have led to these problems.
There are websites that can help, books (google Patrick Carnes), 12 step groups, specialized counselors, and lots of other help available. If he is serious about stopping, he won't be just using 'addiction' as an excuse, but he will be actively and transparently trying to stop looking at porn.
My husband is a sex addict and attends a 12 step group so I do know a little bit about this. I also have a 20 year old son with ADHD (diagnosed at age 3 and well under control now) and I know that people with untreated ADD/ADHD tend to self medicate. Perhaps that is what he was using porn for, I don't know. But my strong recommendation would be that he seek some kind of therapy and learn how to deal with his issues.
People don't get a free pass to cheat just because their marriage sucks. Our R