| | Re: What are the odds?
Emailing ex boyfriends is not closure...it's fishing.
Anyone who is not a friend of the marriage should be cut out of the marriage like a tumor. Tell her if she doesn't start using her boundary scalpel you will use your divorce sledgehammer.
If you think there is more I would strongly suggest you demand a polygraph. It's your trust she has to win back. If she's not doing it then she needs to start quickly or your marriage is doomed.