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Old 02-22-2012, 12:19 AM   #7 (permalink)
LostWifeCrushed
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Default Re: Addiction Problem or Motivation Problem?

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Originally Posted by Jaxie View Post
Thank you so much for your advice. I guess I was just wondering if he can beat the porn addiction, would that be what he needed to get motivated? Or would he still be the same as before. I know no one here can tell me for sure, just wondering what others had to say.

LOSTWIFECRUSHED- That is the hard part. What do I want? I was young when we were married and came from a broken home so this is how I know how to live. I wouldn't even know how to go about finding a roommate, moving out, etc. I also fear how lonely life would be with out him.

He did admit his addiction to me, I never caught him and it seems he is really trying. But we have been through this before, except he never opened up about the addiction. And he goes back to his same old self in a week or two. I guess time will tell if he is serious this time and if he isn't, I guess I will have to summon the courage to leave for good.
Look, what do you want for your life? You have no kids and you have money. Your plan may have been to have a family and be a SAHM with him working, but how long are you willing to wait?

He may have an addiction, who knows, he might also just be selfish and happy to let you be miserable while he checks out. FOR YEARS. Stop worrying about what he needs to be motivated! who cares? He doesn't seem to.

And what about you? He knows he can stay as long as he tells you what you want to hear. But what is he doing? Do you really want to be a sex cop now---on top of everything else? He needs to deal with his problem and start pulling his share.

The ball is in your court.

Don't let him get away with it.
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