swedish

First, I think it's great in general that you plan to tell him how you are feeling. Letting things stew will only make you build resentment. Let me preface by saying I have a hard time saying anything negative that I think will hurt someone's feelings, so I'll give you my opinion but hopefully someone that has a more direct personality (yes, those jeans make your butt look big!) will respond as well because I don't know that my opinion is necessarily a good one. I think if I were to receive this from my spouse, I would be feeling hurt and that ok, she pretty much doesn't like anything about me but if I do all of these things she's asking, she will love me and be happy. If it were me, I would focus on your feelings of being alone and unappreciated. The issues regarding your mom's health and not feeling supported and how his use of porn is making you feel and what he could do in that regard (going with you to visit, helping more at home, and a discussion about porn/sex and how it makes you feel and what would make you feel loved in that area) would probably be what I would talk to him about at this point. I think I would leave the other issues on the back-burner for the moment so he doesn't feel like he's being attacked, but JMHO.