oldmittens

Given the seriousness of your wife's deception I think divorce is a completely reasonable reaction. when I discovered my ex wife's affair I divorced her and I do not regret it. But at the same time reconciliation is possible but it depends a lot on your wife. Is she remorseful, has she offered transparency, did she explain to you how/why the affair started, has she taken steps to make sure there won't be another one down the line. If she hasn't done these things and done them "enthusiastically" then odds are she's just trying to run sweep and will just do it again when the heat dies down. You also need to ask yourself are you capable of moving past this. Recovery is a two-way street and will take just as much hard work from you as it does from her. You will have to deal with years of triggers (Events that trigger a mental flashback to the affair) and mind movies (replaying the images over and over again in your head) it will not be easy, nothing about this situation is. I wish you the best of luck follow the advice on this site it will help a lot and remember this was not your fault you didn't deserve this no one does.