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starmagic77 · 03-20-2008, 02:32 PM

Hi! Newbie here and hoping to vent out a little and hearing what your thoughts about my situation. Although, my story can quite be long!

DH and I have been married for about four years. I can tell you that he and I jump into marriage way too fast as we've only known each other for a few months, and decided to get married but, we had a year to plan the wedding, so we had a year to get to know each other, though I am now saying to myself that was still not long enough..

Anyway, DH, his family and my family used to get a long sooo well. Until I gave birth to our first born. i decided to be a stay at home my that time, btw. Jealousy started to rise from my mother-in-law. Since I go pretty all the time to MY mom for help, advices, etc.. she gets furious that I do! I believe that she has said things to DH that would have DH get jealous of my family as well. Things got nasty one day... mom-in-law started saying all these things; that i should go to my mom for any problems involving our relationship and that I should only go to her since it's her son! And because my family doesn't see it both ways, she said that my family would hate DH. That time she was planning on sleeping over, but DH said to pack her things up so he can drop her off.. and off they went.. took him about 2 hours to finally get home.. and burst inside the house with eyes all flamed up! and asked me to choose between him and my mother! (i dunno what the hell his dear mother put in his head but after that night, i never saw the same guy i first met!)Well, i didn't really choose, but since i'm still with him... but i still see my mother as well. However, DH thinks I chose my family over him..

After a few months, he and i had an agreement that I should work so that i don't get all bored and stressed.. and told hime about the baby-sitting situation. He knows that my mom will have to watch my son. and he didn't like it at first, but i tried to explain to him the advantages.

Anyway... up to this day, he and his mother is still insecured and jealous of them and i think that's what breaks us apart! =(
i hate the fact that he get jealous of my mom (the woman who gave birth to me and the woman who raised me and my two brothers ALL by herself, hence this is why i have soo much respect to my mom.. more about it later!)

so, this is my story.. reference for later stories!

03-20-2008, 02:32 PM	#1 (permalink)
starmagic77 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 2	Newbie needs to vent! Hi! Newbie here and hoping to vent out a little and hearing what your thoughts about my situation. Although, my story can quite be long! DH and I have been married for about four years. I can tell you that he and I jump into marriage way too fast as we've only known each other for a few months, and decided to get married but, we had a year to plan the wedding, so we had a year to get to know each other, though I am now saying to myself that was still not long enough.. Anyway, DH, his family and my family used to get a long sooo well. Until I gave birth to our first born. i decided to be a stay at home my that time, btw. Jealousy started to rise from my mother-in-law. Since I go pretty all the time to MY mom for help, advices, etc.. she gets furious that I do! I believe that she has said things to DH that would have DH get jealous of my family as well. Things got nasty one day... mom-in-law started saying all these things; that i should go to my mom for any problems involving our relationship and that I should only go to her since it's her son! And because my family doesn't see it both ways, she said that my family would hate DH. That time she was planning on sleeping over, but DH said to pack her things up so he can drop her off.. and off they went.. took him about 2 hours to finally get home.. and burst inside the house with eyes all flamed up! and asked me to choose between him and my mother! (i dunno what the hell his dear mother put in his head but after that night, i never saw the same guy i first met!)Well, i didn't really choose, but since i'm still with him... but i still see my mother as well. However, DH thinks I chose my family over him.. After a few months, he and i had an agreement that I should work so that i don't get all bored and stressed.. and told hime about the baby-sitting situation. He knows that my mom will have to watch my son. and he didn't like it at first, but i tried to explain to him the advantages. Anyway... up to this day, he and his mother is still insecured and jealous of them and i think that's what breaks us apart! =( i hate the fact that he get jealous of my mom (the woman who gave birth to me and the woman who raised me and my two brothers ALL by herself, hence this is why i have soo much respect to my mom.. more about it later!) so, this is my story.. reference for later stories!