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Originally Posted by Clash  She is remorseful, and has offered transparency (I know her email and Facebook passwords, and she leaves her phone unlocked). She said that she enjoyed getting compliments from the OM, and felt like she was going down a destructive path, but couldn't stop herself. I know that I didn't handle the sexting situation properly. I let her off too easy, and I think that came back to haunt me.
As far as being enthusiastic about taking steps to prevent future occurrences, it doesn't really seem like it. She said that she would delete her Facebook, quit traveling, quit Words with Friends and all of that IF I wanted her to. She has been very apologetic, but gets upset when I bring it up. It's like she expects me to move past it as fast as she can... |
Her words do not mean a thing at this stage. Actions do.
She said that she would delete her Facebook, quit traveling, quit Words with Friends and all of that IF I wanted her to. Tell her that this is a start and just do it.
She said that she enjoyed getting compliments from the OM, and felt like she was going down a destructive path, but couldn't stop herself. She is telling you the why. She needs to get into IC to deal with these issues and the sooner the better.
She has been very apologetic, but gets upset when I bring it up. It's like she expects me to move past it as fast as she can. Typical responce. She needs to stop getting upset. It is insulting to you and disrespectful. She brought this into the marriage. She needs to do the heavy lifting. She has no right what-so-ever, none to get upset. I repeat, no right to get upset. She gave up that privilege when she cheated. She is showing partial remorse not true remorse. And of course she wants to move past it as fast as she can. But it is pure stupidy. She broke you, destroyed trust, and she wants to move past this. Do not let her control this situation.
