mamab

Grnt, I don't think you're over reacting, or wrong for wanting better for your son. My suggestion is to write things that she does down, get some type of collaboration, and then force her hand. If she wants to continue to be a part of your son's life, then she has to get help. If she refuses to get help, then (even though it will be hard on your son and you), let her go. Begin divorce proceedings and take your evidence with you to the lawyer, ask for full custody of your son. If your wife is smoking pot, is she doing it in your son's presence? If so, do you know the effects pot will have on a child that age? You might want to do some research and find out. Also, if she's hiding money so she can "feed" her addictions (pot, smoking, gambling), if she were to have custody of him, would she have his best interest at heart, or would her addictions be more important? I know it's not an easy decision to make, but you have to protect your son.

Let us know what happens. I've prayed for you.