Originally Posted by chillymorn
being a stay at home mom is very hard when they are little.and the husband should help with in home chores as much as possible.As the children get older they require less time and is less stressfull and the mom should transition into making sure the chores get done with the extra time they have while the kids are in school and make an effort to have a nice dinner for the family etc
if she ends up with some extra time when everything is squared away the she should enjoy it. moms are only human and deserve some down time also.
after the kids are in school full time then it would be nice for her to try to earn some extra income for the the extras in life like vacations etc. the feeling of helping financialy will make you fel good about helping espically with the way the economy is.
just like moms liking when the husband helps with chores the husband likes when the wife starts helping with earning money.
As soon as both my kids started school, so did I!! But I think I got to appreciate being a SAHM more since I didn't get to do it until my oldest was 3.5 years and the youngest was 1.5 years.
I ask very little of my husband even now, just because he does work all day. I get paid to go to school ( my GI Bill) but it brings in a fraction of the money his paycheck does. So I carry most of the cleaning/cooking/dr appts/ kids homework load and he carries just about all of the financial load. Seems very fair to me.
I will admit that its nice when he offers to take the oldest to one of his therapy appts ( autism). But I certainly don't expect it.