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Chopblock · 03-21-2008, 04:26 PM

Obviously you aren't happy with your arrangement, which is the problem in and of itself. It doesn't matter what WE say because that won't apply to you. I could say that if I earn the money (irrelevant of how "hard" I work) and you are at home not bringing in money, that I should not be handed a laundry basket and spatula when I get home because thats what your job is.

Let me point out that I have the utmost respect for the stay at home (those who are lucky enough to be able to do it -- around here you need 2 incomes to scrape by) and I understand that staying at home can be HARDER than working.

So unless you want to spill all the details for the jury here, so we can decide whether his job is hard enough/long enough/high paying enough to exempt him from housework, you really just have to communicate with him.

Did he grow up with "June Cleaver"? Did mom do everything while Dad worked? Does he expect the same? Would HE be a stay at home?

Instead of asking us to judge who is "right", figure out what you want and compromise with him.

03-21-2008, 04:26 PM	#9 (permalink)
Chopblock Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 213	Re: A question for men Obviously you aren't happy with your arrangement, which is the problem in and of itself. It doesn't matter what WE say because that won't apply to you. I could say that if I earn the money (irrelevant of how "hard" I work) and you are at home not bringing in money, that I should not be handed a laundry basket and spatula when I get home because thats what your job is. Let me point out that I have the utmost respect for the stay at home (those who are lucky enough to be able to do it -- around here you need 2 incomes to scrape by) and I understand that staying at home can be HARDER than working. So unless you want to spill all the details for the jury here, so we can decide whether his job is hard enough/long enough/high paying enough to exempt him from housework, you really just have to communicate with him. Did he grow up with "June Cleaver"? Did mom do everything while Dad worked? Does he expect the same? Would HE be a stay at home? Instead of asking us to judge who is "right", figure out what you want and compromise with him.