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Chopblock · 03-21-2008, 04:36 PM

You should ask your wife the exact question you are asking here, via a hypothetical friend -- except flip the genders of the victims, and replace "sex" with "never shows me emotion". I guarantee you she'll say something like "she should leave that dolt since he is too selfish to meet her needs".

Then tell her you think that is a very interesting answer, and ask her how would she feel if that advice was given to you guys. Most likely she'll pull a "thats different" attempt, but don't allow her to do so -- it is NOT different, it is exactly the same. A spouse is CHOOSING not to meet the needs of the other spouse, and is choosing not to work through the problem.

03-21-2008, 04:36 PM	#9 (permalink)
Chopblock Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 213	Re: Almost sexless marriage You should ask your wife the exact question you are asking here, via a hypothetical friend -- except flip the genders of the victims, and replace "sex" with "never shows me emotion". I guarantee you she'll say something like "she should leave that dolt since he is too selfish to meet her needs". Then tell her you think that is a very interesting answer, and ask her how would she feel if that advice was given to you guys. Most likely she'll pull a "thats different" attempt, but don't allow her to do so -- it is NOT different, it is exactly the same. A spouse is CHOOSING not to meet the needs of the other spouse, and is choosing not to work through the problem.